Sophie’s Choice

“I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation.”
Philippians 4:12
This week I lost one of my very best friends, Sophie Mitzel. Sophie was killed in a horrific car crash Sunday night. She was only 46 and was a devoted wife and mother, tax expert, talented singer and tireless volunteer to many organizations.
I have been writing about envy and contentment this month, but of course this week I could think only about Sophie and how much I will miss her. So when I sat down today to write my blog I decided to write about Sophie’s choice of contentment.
Sophie had reason to be discontent. Her youngest son, Logan, was diagnosed with Muscular Dystrophy at the age of 4. As she watched the disease begin to rob Logan, now 11, of the use of his muscles, she could have envied the parents of perfectly healthy children. She could have spent her time complaining about the unfairness of life, but she didn’t. She made a choice to be content. Sure she struggled with sadness as Logan’s condition deteriorated, but she never lost faith in God’s sovereignty. Even though she could not understand God’s ways, she still trusted in His care, His love, and His wisdom. She exhibited faith even when she could not understand life here on earth.
Hopefully we can all learn from Sophie’s example. It is easy to envy people who seem to have an easier life, a wealthier life, or a more successful life. Life is not fair or easy, but envy is not the answer. Envy does not change anything and will only make us miserable.
Instead we can choose contentment. Contentment in the form of trust in God’s wisdom and love can bring peace. Even when we don’t understand why a dear friend was taken to heaven too soon.


  1. It sounds like Sophie has left an excellent legacy behind that will last into many lives. May her words and deeds float up to help soften the edge of sorrow left behind also. ~ Donna

  2. I am sorry you lost your friend. But you will see her again when we all meet with Jesus. We can all learn from each other as we live out our time here.

  3. Sharla, My praying friend was in a head on accident yesterday, but God spared her life. His ways are mysterious, but we choose to trust His power and His goodness. I guess that is a good definition of contentment. Your friend, Sophie’s choice to be content has spoken to me about my need to be content in the difficult things my daughter is going through. Please know I am praying for you and whispering a prayer for Sophie’s family as well. I enjoy your blog, even if I don’t leave comments very often. :)