Accepting a compliment is sometimes difficult to do. It may seem prideful to accept praise. Am I boasting if I acknowledge a compliment?
In order to not appear to be boasting, I may be tempted to respond by putting myself down. However, this tactic can make me look like I’m fishing for more praise or devalue the gift of the compliment.
What usually happens if you respond to a compliment by saying something like, “Aw, it was nothing.” or Well, I actually made a lot of mistakes.”? The usual response would be something like, “No really–you did a great job.” And the other person may wonder if you put yourself down just to get another word of praise.
Also, a compliment is a gift, and contradicting the comment of approval is a rejection of that gift and an insult to the person offering it.
Try these tips:
- Look the person in the eye and say a simple, “Thank you,” with a smile.
- Respond by telling the person how the compliment made you feel like, “Wow, your words really made my day.”
- Don’t water down your, “Thank you,” with a self-deprecating comment.
- If appropriate, respond by complimenting the other person. For instance, if a co-worker compliments your work on a joint project, you could also praise that person’s efforts.