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When Your Part Seems Small: Playing in the Symphony of Life

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Every so often I persuade my husband to attend a concert of classical music with me  A while ago we traveled into the city to hear the Chicago Symphony Orchestra.

As soon as we found our seats, I knew something special was going to happen. On the stage, behind the chairs set up for the string section, sat six harps. I had never seen so many harps in one place! I could hardly wait to hear what fantastic part they would play in the opening music by Wagner.

But wait is what I did. The harpists sat for almost twenty minutes while the violinists and cellists moved their bows over their strings, while the flautists and oboists blew their horns, while the percussionists banged drums and clashed cymbals.

Finally, at the end of the Wagner pieces, the harpists pulled their harps toward their shoulders and began to pluck strings. But still I could barely hear them because, as they were plucking, drums were pounding, trumpets were blowing.

I wondered if the harpists were disappointed that they didn’t have a bigger part to play in the performance.

Truth be told, I sometimes feel like those harpists.

In the performance of life, it often seems like I do more waiting than performing. And when my time comes to play, hardly anyone notices. I sometimes feel that in the grand symphony of life, the part I play is very small. I wonder if I can make any difference at all.

When I read 1 Corinthians I wonder if some of the people that the apostle Paul was writing to in Corinth were feeling the same way. Paul uses the analogy of the body and tells the Corinthians that as Christians we are all part of Christ’s body. Some of us are eyes, some are ears, some are hands. But we are all important.

In fact, he writes:

Those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable.

(1 Corinthians 12:22)

When Wagner composed the piece for orchestra, he considered the harpists indispensable. Otherwise, he would not have included them. The timbre of the plucking strings was necessary for the sound he wanted to achieve. Though they waited a long to play and had a small part, the music would not have been the same without them.

Though we may wait for a long time to play our part, even though our part may seem small, it is crucial in God’s symphony of life. He made each of us for a specific purpose and role. He wants us to know our worth in His plan.

In God’s symphony of life, you are indispensable.

Next step: How do you see your current role in God’s symphony of life? Waiting? Playing? Remember all roles are important.

When You Struggle to Say Yes to God’s Plan

Sometimes I have a hard time accepting God’s plan for my life. You too?

I remember a conversation I had with my daughter as I was tucking her into bed when she was about four. I said something like, “Anna, you are getting so big! Pretty soon you’ll be all grown up!”

And Anna, very serious at the thought of being an adult, looked at me and said, “Mom are there any houses on our street that are empty?” Awww…my daughter wanted to live close to me when she grew up.

So imagine my surprise when she got married and moved to—China!

Let me tell you I did not take this news well. Especially because not only did Anna and her husband move 7000 miles away—they had the audacity to take my grandchildren with them. No more chasing giggling toddlers through the halls, snuggling on the couch with them reading storybooks, or laughing along with Winnie-the-Pooh videos. Now my husband John and I had to settle for playing peek-a-boo on Skype and getting pictures of our grandchildren through email. As a result, I was about as upbeat as Eeyore on life-support.

Lately I’ve been studying the life of Mary, the mother of Jesus, and I was struck by how she willingly accepted God’s plan for her life. When the angel Gabriel came to tell her that she was going to be the mother of Jesus, she questioned how that was going to happen because she was a virgin, but she didn’t complain that being pregnant before marriage was going to make life difficult. She didn’t whine about being the subject of gossip. She didn’t even bring up the point that her fiance Joseph would surely not believe her strange story about an angel and a virgin pregnancy.

Mary simply said yes to God’s plan.

And because I was struggling with saying yes to God’s plan for my life I wondered: How was she able to do that?

When I examine Luke’s Gospel, I see three reasons she was able to accept God’s plotline for her story.

Mary Believed God Was With Her

First, I think she could say yes because she believed Gabriel’s words, “Greetings, O favored one, the Lord is with you!” (Luke 1:28). She believed that God was right there with her.

I wonder if she felt God’s presence at that moment. Seeing a heavenly being, hearing God’s words to her—it’s hard for me to imagine she didn’t have a sure sense of His love in that moment. In time held still, with God’s presence all around her and His love shining into her heart, all of the possible consequences of rejection and ridicule faded away. She said yes to God’s plan because she trusted that God was with her. And she knew that if God was holding her hand, she could get through anything.

But even when we don’t feel God’s presence, we have the promise that He is always with us. That same Messiah that Mary trusted and carried, promises all of us in Matthew 28:20,

“I am with you always, to the end of the age.”

Gradually, I learned to say yes to God’s plan for my daughter and her family even though I wish they weren’t so far away. I’ve been learning to say yes because I am trusting the Lord is with me. If I hold onto God’s hand I can say yes, because He is with me–and with them.

We can say yes to God’s plan when we trust that He will walk beside us.

Mary Said Yes With Humility

Secondly, Mary could say to God’s plan because of humility.

Mary was given a difficult situation. She was asked to yes to a plan that included being pregnant before marriage. This plan came with a certain dose of humiliation. She probably heard whispers of, “What a tramp!” and “Joseph deserves so much better” as she walked the streets of Nazareth. And yet Mary said yes to God’s plan.

Listen to her words from Luke 1:

“My soul magnifies the Lord,
    and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has looked on the humble estate of his servant.”

Luke 1:46-47

Mary magnified the Lord–not herself. She rejoiced in God–not in her superior plan. She talked about her humble estate–not how she deserved better.

Sometimes I’m tempted to think that it was easy for Mary to yes to God’s plan. After all she was selected for the most special role any woman could have—she was going to be the mother of the Savior. Who wouldn’t want to be the most special?

But think about it—very few people during Mary’s lifetime truly understood her unique calling. Most people would have seen her either as a tramp, someone who violated God’s laws, or as a crazy person, someone claiming to have a virgin birth.

And that’s why it’s so amazing that she responded to Gabriel with the words, “Let it be to me as you have said.” Her humility enabled her to say yes to God.

Mary Saw Her Humble Life As A Part of God’s Grand Plan

Thirdly, Mary was able to say yes to God because she understood her small life was a piece of God’s big plan.

Perhaps you also struggle with accepting life as it is right now. Sometimes it’s hard to say yes to God’s plan because we wish for a bigger stage or a heftier reward. We want something more exciting or more romantic or more beautiful. Life just seems so—ordinary.

You may feel like you are nothing special. But the Bible tells us that each of us has been selected for a unique calling (Ephesians 4:10). Only one woman is mother to your children. Only one woman is the wife of your husband. Only one woman can minister to the needs of your church with your specific God-given gifts. Only one woman can reach into your world with your particular skill set.

When we feel ordinary we need to remember that is not how God sees us.

God sees you as special. God sees you as unique. God sees you as a one-of-a-kind person with a one-of-a-kind life.

All those tears you wipe away, all those dishes you wash, all those memos you type all add up to one incredible life when you see them through God’s eyes.

We can say yes to God when in humility we see our small lives as an essential part of God’s grand plan.

Next step: What is God asking you to say yes to? What from Mary’s story will help you say yes to His plan? His presence? Humility? Realizing your life is a part of God’s grand plan? Write a prayer expressing all your feelings to the One who loves you.

Three Lessons For Facing Life’s Surprising Challenges

What do you do when faced with surprising challenges? A recent trip to Zion National Park taught me some valuable lessons in persevering through difficulty.

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Don’t look down. Don’t look down.

These are the words I repeated to myself over and over on the Hidden Canyon trail we hiked in Zion National Park in Utah.

The Hidden Canyon trail is a path that takes you up about 1000 feet above the canyon floor. A trail that, at times, is only about a foot wide with a sheer drop-off to the side. A trail that I never would have believed I would climb.

If someone had described this trail to me and then invited me to climb it with them, I would have said, “No way. I’m not that daring. I’m not that brave.”

But we had heard that the hidden canyon at the top of the trail was worth the climb–and we didn’t know about the narrow portions where you were inches from falling hundreds of feet–so we started the trek up to the top.

As I was panting my way up this trail, I was struck by how what I was learning on the hike applied to life as well.

Life’s path often has surprising challenges. We aren’t often warned of difficulties up ahead. What can we do when our life suddenly seems as challenging as a mountain climb?

Here are three lessons I learned on the Hidden Canyon trail on handling surprising challenges:

1. Cling to the Rock. The Hidden Canyon trail had very narrow sections where you needed to hang onto a chain–attached firmly to the cliff–so that you didn’t fall off the foot-wide path.

DSCN3903 - Copy (2)When life’s path turns out to be more challenging than I anticipate, I need to hang onto the Rock of my life:

The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer, my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. Psalm 18:2

DSCN3903 - CopyWhen life seems uncertain, I need to cling to the One thing that is sure and unchanging. When I’m afraid of falling, I need to hang on the One thing that will never fail–God. When I face challenges in life, I can grab hold of the One who will never let me down.

2. Stop and rest. Climbing up 1000 feet over the distance of one mile meant that at times I needed to stop and rest. My lungs demanded that I plant my feet and just breathe.

In life I don’t always pay attention to the signs that I need to stop and rest. I tend to keep plowing ahead when my soul is demanding that I simply stop and breathe. Even God knew we needed to rest, so He commanded a Sabbath:

This is what the Lord has commanded: “Tomorrow is a day of solemn rest, a holy Sabbath to the Lord.” Exodus 16:23

God commands us to take a day of rest–a day to stop and breathe in His grace.

DSCN3880 - Copy3. Don’t look down. When I was on those very high and very narrow pathways, it was best not to look over the edge to the valley floor so far below. I needed to keep looking at my feet. I couldn’t even look too far ahead. I had to pay attention to the very next step.

I also get in trouble in life when I try to look beyond where I am right now. It’s easy for me to get anxious when I look down at all the possible things that could go wrong. Or to worry when I try to look too far ahead. I need to concentrate on what is happening right now. Jesus said:

Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Matthew 6:34

So when life ends up being more challenging than you planned on, remember:

Cling to the Rock–the Rock of Christ

Stop and rest–breathe in His grace

Don’t look down–just concentrate on the next step

How to Wait Well

Hold up your hand if you like waiting. Although I can’t see your hands through the computer screen, I would venture that no one raised her hand. And yet, because we often need to wait, we want to learn how to wait well

I hate the word wait. It’s a four-letter word that should be banned. I get impatient. I despise delays.

Recently I’ve been studying the life of Elizabeth. This woman had a very long wait for her most important role in life. Luke 1:5-7 tells us:

In the days of Herod, king of Judea, there was a priest named Zechariah, of the division of Abijah. And he had a wife from the daughters of Aaron, and her name was Elizabeth. And they were both righteous before God, walking blamelessly in all the commandments and statutes of the Lord. But they had no child, because Elizabeth was barren, and both were advanced in years.

Elizabeth and Zechariah were waiting and waiting for a baby. But now they were both “advanced in years” and all hope of having a child had faded.

While I was thinking about Elizabeth’s long wait, I observed a pattern in Scripture. When I look in the Bible, I see that God often put His children in a waiting room.

And when I zoom in a little closer, I see that often God didn’t work out the answer to a problem right away because the delay made the answer that much more miraculous. The birth of Isaac was that much more remarkable because he was born to a ninety-year-old mother. Joseph’s rise to power in Egypt was even more amazing after spending years in prison. The Israelites’ possession of the Promised Land was more astounding after being enslaved in Egypt for 400 years, than if Jacob’s descendants had slowly taken over the region.

And now God drew attention to Zechariah and Elizabeth’s baby through a long delay. Because Elizabeth gave birth when she was “well advanced in years,” it seemed obvious that this child was going to be special.

Not only would the baby John be a significant addition to Zechariah and Elizabeth’s family, he would be important to the whole nation of Israel—because He would prepare the people for the coming of the Savior.

When God makes us wait, it is often because He wants to do something bigger in our lives—something even bigger than what we prayed for. And if I remember this, my waiting is a little less difficult if I expect God to answer my prayers in a bigger way than I can imagine.

Now this doesn’t always mean that the answer to the prayer—when it finally comes—will look spectacular to the world around us. It might not always be recognized as a miracle by the people in our lives.

Sometimes the spectacular—the miraculous—is what happens in our hearts. The bigger thing that God wants to do is to transform us. Maybe the prayer is never answered the way you would like, but God gives you a peace and a joy that can only be explained by the power of His Spirit.

So when you are waiting for that new job, or a diagnosis for your child’s illness, or for a relationship to be healed, remember that even in the waiting we can be connected to God when we trust His goodness and expect Him to act in a way that is best for us.

We can become more connected to God by waiting if we stop fighting the pause in our plans and expect the delay to accomplish something wonderful in God’s purpose for our lives.

Next step: What are you waiting on God for right now? Turn it over to God. Expect Him to do something wonderful.

This post is an excerpt from my presentation “Christ-Connected Women: Elizabeth and Mary” which teaches about waiting on the Lord and accepting His plan for our lives. For more information about this talk and my other presentations check out my Speaking Topics page.

When Wait is a Four-Letter Word

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To me, wait is a four-letter word that should never be used.

Because I hate waiting.

When I’ve decided I want something, I want it now. I find it hard to be patient. I hate the delay.

But it seems to me that God likes that word–wait. He often uses periods of waiting in our lives. He rarely gives us a desire and then grants that desire right away.

Even King David who starts out Psalm 40 so confidently:

I waited patiently for the Lord to help me,
and he turned to me and heard my cry.

Psalm 40:1

shows that he doesn’t always wait patiently for the Lord.

That same psalm is a desperate prayer for help. For help NOW.

David says:

  • “Do not withhold your mercy from me, O Lord” (v. 11)
  • “O Lord, come quickly to help me” (v. 13)
  • “O my God, do not delay” (v. 17)

It seems David is in a desperate situation. His enemies are coming for him. His foes want to ruin him. Trouble surrounds him like mosquitoes on a sticky summer evening. And he wants God to come to his rescue–yesterday.

We often feel like that. Everything is going wrong. It seems like no one is there to help. Problems multiply daily. We pray and plead with God, but we are still waiting.

What can we do when we are in that place of waiting?

We can be like David who began his prayer for help remembering a time when God did come through. A time when all that waiting paid off and God heard his cry. When God got him out of the pit.

He lifted me out of the pit of despair,
    out of the mud and the mire.
He set my feet on solid ground
    and steadied me as I walked along. (v. 2)

He praised God:

He has given me a new song to sing,
    a hymn of praise to our God. (v.3a)

He looked forward to the time when He could tell others about how God came to the rescue:

Many will see what he has done and be amazed.
    They will put their trust in the Lord. (v. 3b)

And realized that periods of waiting are seasons to grow in trust:

Blessed is the man who makes
    the Lord his trust, (v. 4a)

To me wait is a four-letter word. But waiting is something God often calls us to do.

Next step: When you are in a season of waiting, recall the lessons of Psalm 40:

  1. Remember when God has come through in the past.
  2. Find something to praise God about.
  3. Look forward to an amazing story of answered prayer.
  4. And realize that you have been given an opportunity to grow your trust in God.

Which of those four lessons from Psalm 40 will help you most when you are waiting?

If you want more help for your waiting season, check out my eBook: 7 Words Your Soul Needs in a Waiting Season. 

In it, you will discover seven words that can mean wait. Seven words that can give hope and purpose in the middle of delay. Seven words your soul needs in a waiting season.

It’s FREE! Just sign up below for my Soul Rest newsletter and you will receive this devotional eBook with seven lessons on waiting, plus beautiful graphics of my favorite waiting Scriptures that you can print and frame.

When You Feel Empty

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To feel empty is not usually a pleasant feeling, and yet sometimes it’s necessary.

Last Saturday night I had dinner with some friends at an awesome Mexican restaurant. We pigged out on chips and salsa, beef, chicken, and amazing enchiladas. We ended the dinner with strawberries, bananas, and chocolate fondue. I left feeling stuffed.

But after this feast I noticed that my clothes were feeling a bit snug. So I’m cutting back a bit on my portions, choosing salad instead of pizza, and avoiding ice cream. Sometimes my stomach gives a little growl. I don’t like it, but I remind myself that sometimes empty is good.

Asking God to Fill

I remembered this when I read this verse:

We have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding.

Colossians 1:9

That word fill caught my eye. I like to be full. I’d much rather have a satisfied stomach–full of chocolate fondue–than have a growling tummy.

In my spiritual life I like to be full too. And so I try to fill my life with many things that I think will satisfy my hungry heart. I try busyness, working harder, volunteer positions, and new sweaters. But somehow that doesn’t work.

According to Colossians, what I need to be filled with is the knowledge of God’s will. At first that doesn’t even sound appealing. But then I stop and think a moment. What would it feel like to know more of God’s purpose, to have a little more wisdom, a bit more spiritual understanding? I think it would give me more perspective, a greater vision of how my small life fits into God’s big story. It would untangle the tension in my soul. It would satisfy my heart.

God is reminding me that being filled with the knowledge of his will is something I need everyday. It’s not a one time fill-up. It’s a daily turning to Him with an open heart, ready to be stuffed with grace.

Come to God Empty

To be filled with the knowledge of God’s will, I need to come empty–without my preconceived ideas of what I want or what I think I want. I need to rest In Him and open my heart, ready to receive His wisdom and reassurance and love.

Although I’d always like to be full of chocolate fondue and of my own plans, sometimes empty is good. Empty gives room for change. Empty makes room for God to fill my life.

Next step: Take a few minutes to empty out your heart to God. Tell Him all your frustrations and disappointments. Confess your sins. Ask Him to show you where your preconceived ideas of what you think you want are getting in the way of the wonderful things He has in mind for you. A useful practice I like to use for this is the Palms Down, Palms Up Prayer. Check it out here.

When You Discover You’ve Taken the Wrong Path

A while back I got a little lost. I discovered I was on the wrong path.

My husband, son, and I took a mini-vacation to Devil’s Lake State Park in Wisconsin. While there, we wanted to do a little hiking. The helpful man at the information center at the park told us we needed to take the East Bluff Trail in order to see the park’s most amazing sights.

We started off fine. The trailhead for the East Bluff Trial was clearly marked. We huffed and puffed our way up the steep trail and were rewarded with this spectacular view of the lake.

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We then continued on what we thought was the East Bluff Trail, but the further we went, the more challenging the trail got. We were scrambling over boulders and dodging poison ivy. My son noted that the trail was not looking very “trail-y” anymore. But we kept following any little worn spot in the dirt we could find between the rocks.

Finally, after a particularly steep climb up some serious rocks, my husband announced, “Here’s the trail!”

I laughed when I caught up to him because… the real trail was black-topped! How could we have missed an asphalt trail in the woods?

Sometimes I have discovered that I have taken a wrong turn in life. Instead of keeping on my true life’s path, I’ve allowed myself to be distracted by fear, by ambition, or by other people’s opinions. Or I’ve taken a wrong turn simply because I haven’t been paying close enough attention to God’s guidance.

Eventually, I realize that the trail I’m on isn’t very “trail-y” anymore. I have a vague sense that I’m not on the right path. Clues that I’ve taken a wrong turn are feeling distant from God or a low-level anxiety all the time.

What can we do when we sense that we have taken a wrong turn in life? Psalm 25 has some answers.

  • Examine what may have caused you to miss the right path (lack of trust in God, for instance):

O my God, I trust, lean on, rely on, and am confident in You.  (verse 2 Amplified)

  • Ask for forgiveness:

For the honor of your name, O Lord, forgive my many, many sins. (verse 11 NLT)

  • Come to God with an attitude of humility, acknowledging He knows best:

He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way. (verse 9 ESV)

  • Ask God to show you His ways:

Make me know Your ways, O Lord; Teach me Your paths. (verse 4 NASB)

Thankfully, God promises to guide us in the way that is chosen specifically for us when we choose to respect Him.

Who is the man who reverently fears and worships the Lord? Him shall He teach in the way that he should choose. (verse 12 AMP)

Next step: A prayer for today, “Lord, sometimes I think I’m on the right path and then discover I’ve taken a wrong turn somewhere. Forgive my lack of trust in Your ways. Help me get back on the right trail.”

When the Waves Seem Too High

When my husband and I visited the beautiful island of Kauai, we arrived at our resort at night. We could tell our building was near the ocean, but didn’t realize until the next morning that our room was only steps away from the beach. We woke up to a spectacular sunrise–so spectacular that we decided that we would get up every morning to watch the world awake. (Quite an undertaking for this non-morning person!)

Every morning we oohed and aahed at the pinks, blues, and purple colors in the awakening sky. We saw the golden ball of the sun peek out from the gray sea.

And we noticed something else–a small boat. Every morning right before the sun made its grand entrance, a small watercraft left the river-harbor and went bravely into the ocean. We wondered aloud why this boat went out every day at the same time. Was it a morning ritual of the boat owners? Or did the boat go out on official business?

One morning the waves were quite high. It seemed a storm was brewing. But the little boat still went out in the strengthening surf. It bounced along in the waves, but it didn’t turn back.

This morning I remembered that small boat when I read the story of Peter walking on the waves.

 Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.” “Yes, come,” Jesus said. So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus. But when he saw the strong wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted. Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,” Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”

Matthew 14:28-31

You see, I’m a lot like Peter. I want to exhibit great faith. When Jesus says, “Come!” I want to respond wholeheartedly.

I want to obey Christ’s call on my life. But it’s funny how the waves always look a lot smaller before I take that first step. Before I start the project, I’m confident I can do it.

And because God has called me to it, I expect everything to be smooth sailing. I don’t expect turbulent water.

But so often everything looks scarier after I’ve taken that first step and I want to give up. The waves look too high and I begin to sink. I think I haven’t heard God’s call correctly and I start to lose faith.

Fortunately Jesus reaches out His hand and pulls me to my feet. He explains that just because He has called me to take those first steps that they’ll be easy. That even when I’m walking in obedience, the waves might be rough. That things may very well look more frightening when I’ve stepped out in faith than they did from my comfort zone.

Jesus assures me that even when I think I’ve walked into an impossible situation, that He is there with me. He will hold onto my hand.

Like Peter he asks me to trust Him. Like the little boat in Kauai, He asks me to keep going despite the waves.

Question: What do you do when the waves in your life seem a bit too scary?